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Redefining YOUR Beauty…


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I’m Back and Better!👌🏾

Hey Loves,

This first sentence has been written so many times and backspaced just as many. I mean how do I honestly start off this post considering I haven’t written one in so long! Actually, that is not all the way true. I have been blogging in my mind for the past 8 or so months; those thoughts have just not made their way out of the chambers in my mind. I guess some have broken free now and it feels good to say I’m back and I’m better! What does that even mean, though? Sounded good when Bryson Tiller’s dulcet tones sang it in ‘Don’t’ but in my world, it means more than I may be able to express right now.

I wanted to take a break from social media. I wanted to take some time for myself, to understand some of the things I was going through. I wanted some of my mental to catch up with my physical change. Yes, I intentionally chose the word wanted! I needed to look after my health, which was telling me I was a priority and not an afterthought. I wanted to look in the mirror and not pick myself apart because what I saw did not match up to what was ‘liked’ in the fickle beauty industry.

You see, no matter how confident we appear we all have inner battles that require us to reset our thinking so we can remind ourselves how AWESOME we are! Awesome AF! Rewiring some of my thinking has pushed me. Challenged me. Trained me. Strengthened me. Life has taken a series of interesting turns and I am grateful to God for seeing me through. Learning, evolving and continuing to focus on being the BEST me I can be… NO LIMITS!

So yes, your girl is back and better! Better in part also to many of you and your fantastic messages and love. Big thanks to those of you who got in touch telling me that you missed the blog. Missed me, and my small contribution in the form of this blog that does its own thing. Thank you for encouraging me and for sharing ways I have inspired you. Those that know me, know that I really love this blog and what it represents. The strange goings on from a chick that loves family, friends, Brooklyn, music, makeup Trey Songz and so much more! I have missed you all and pray that you are good and life is all it needs to be for you right now- especially in these trying times!

I’m gonna end by saying THANK YOU to everyone who voted for me in the Best Makeup Artist 💄 category at last year’s AFRO MODEL AWARDS! I don’t think I will ever get over the shock of winning. It was very soon after that night that I took time out. I put shout-outs on Twitter and Facebook but let me holla on here too. I am so grateful and blessed at the recognition and hope it raises your spirits and reminds you that you can do and be anything you want to. No matter your age or the stage you’re at in life! Your journey is in your hands!

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Wishing you all the love in the universe… see you in the next post!

Besos! 💋

TBH! xoxo

p.s. I know for some there are more questions and things you want to know. Not everything is for the blog and what is will be on the blog in due course!


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Finding Confidence on YOUR journey…💬

Hey Loves,

I have seriously been receiving so much love regarding my lifestyle change and weight loss journey. Thank you so much for not only reading my story but also sharing it, commenting, liking etc. I didn’t expect it to be such a popular post but I greatly appreciate you taking your time to learn more about me.

This post has somewhat been spurred on by the feedback I have received. My attachment to the wrong foods was a mixture of things but mainly emotional. If I was sad, I ate. If I was upset, I ate. If I was happy to a certain degree, time to celebrate and therefore, I ate. All now past tense. I no longer find comfort in the wrong foods and this is how I did it.

  • Looking BACKWARDS means you can’t see FORWARDS! 

I could not undo all the years of poor eating choices and to keep dwelling on it meant I was not able to move forward. I know firsthand how easy it is to stay stagnant in the pond of self-pity. I made poor choices in the past and I was not about to continue to keep doing it. What has been done has been done. Now time to change it.

  • Raise yourself UP instead of pulling yourself DOWN!

I used to enjoy being negative about myself. It allowed me to have an excuse and I was comfortable with that. If I called myself FAT, UGLY, NASTY and all those horrible words then if someone else did it, it would not hurt as much. I’ve spoken about changing vocabulary in the past. It is so important and something that makes and instant difference. Appreciate how far you have come. Do not allow anyone around you to put you down or use words such as those above to describe you. Compliment yourself and celebrate achievements. I have said it before, big or small they are all YOU and they are all achievements you should be proud of.

  • Feel your EMOTIONS! DEAL with YOUR emotions!

If you have been emotionally attached to food then you are likely to be familiar with this cycle. You feel sad, so you eat (or you don’t eat- which is also another way to be emotionally affected) and eat some more. You overeat until the point that you feel better, then you instantly feel bad for eating so much and that makes you more upset, so you begin eating again. Break that cycle by dealing with the emotion. Many will say easier said than done, but not always. Look at the reason for the emotion. Then ask yourself what the food will do to remove that emotion or banish it or indeed correct it. What I will say is some emotions run deep and you may need additional assistance to help you deal with or support it but try not to use food as that assistance or any other substance for that matter. It can certainly make matters worse in the long run.

Please note: Speaking to a professional or seeking additional help is in no way a sign of weakness or something to be ashamed of. We can always use extra help and support and sometimes this helps us start a journey and give us the strength and determination to continue!

  • LOVE is ALL around you!

You feel alone and that no one understands you! You are in a room full of people yet you feel lonely. We often push those closest to us away as it is easier to build a wall and isolate yourself than to believe the positivity and love from others. I want you to embrace it. I want you to completely let it engulf you. Immerse yourself in all the goodness and love that is being shown to you. Trust that your family and friends and those who truly know and want the best for you REALLY do want the best for your. Accept compliments with a smile and thank you rather than shooting them down with disbelief. Shower yourself with love. Positive quotes, Bible verses and powerful words of encouragements. Read something first thing in the morning before you leave bed ready to attack the day with a happy heart. Do the same before bed. Pray, meditate, chant and be ready for the goodness that will come to you.

  • Stave off Negativity!

Walk away from it, ignore it and do not let it suck your positivity. It has no place in your life.

  • It has to be YOU!

How often do you actually spend with yourself? Truthfully! Sitting alone in the room checking your phone whilst catching up with your iPad doesn’t really count. Shut down the technology, close the door, light some candles and breathe. Really breathe all the way from deep in your stomach. Tune out everything and everyone. Even if you can only manage 5 mins to begin with, you will be surprised at how much this brings to your life if you find time for you everyday. You can even do it with the family or friends as long as everyone is agreed on how important it is. Just remember you are tuning into YOU!

Believe me when I say that I still have to dig deep for the inner strength at times. It is not always easy but it is achievable My lifestyle change is focused around food and so some of the above where more specific to that. This does not mean that you cannot transfer them to your journey or take elements out to support you on your way.

If you would like to know more about some of the techniques I use on my journey or foods that make me happy or simply anything else, please don’t hesitate to get in touch. I am with you all the way!

Hope you enjoyed this post! Thank you…for all the love.

SMILE, LAUGH AND LOVE MORE!

Smile more… the beauty holder

Besos! 💋

TBH! xoxo


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My Blog in Review! 2014 on rewind!

Hey Everyone!

Happy First Blog of 2015 and more importantly if I haven’t said it to you already, Happy and healthy 2015. Wishing lots of fun, laughter, love and multiple blessings! As I type this I feel as if I am back at the beginning of 2014 doing the same thing. To think that another year of blogging has flown by seems crazy. I was not as active in 2014 as I was in the years prior but I had a great time expressing myself through this forum. I’ve done a little brainstorming and a lot of soul searching and really want to push myself more. The only thing holding me back is me…so no more excuses! Warm up is over! It’s GAME time y’all!

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You guys are a driving force for this blog. I love being able to interact and talk to you. You have given me a renewed spirit and confidence and helped me come out of a comfort zone. Thank you for reading and sharing. For taking time to comment, to request looks and reviews. For laughing at my not always funny jokes. There is so much to be grateful to you all for and I am. I do not do this for the applause or the ‘likes’. I learnt to not take someone hitting the like button personally. Just the fact that it is viewed as many times as it is means enough. So a huge THANK YOU with lots of pink kisses. It will only get better from here.

What blogging trouble (good, of course) did I cause in 2014? Here is a snippet!

  • 45 blog posts (there were 81in 2013).
  • Viewed more than 24,000 times (not bad considering I blogged a lot less than the previous year)
  • April showers could have been the reason for my busiest day. One Make-up Look, 3 Rocking Hairstyles– rocked!
  • We worldwide- 159 countries viewed my blog last year.
  • Most referrals from Facebook, Twitter, WordPress and my lovely blogger friends Niicolea.com and Unveiledglamour.com   (thanks ladies). 
  • Make-up looks and product reviews were the most popular!

Outside of my blog, I continued to cause trouble. Some of that included

  • It was a busy year for weddings and events with more than 7 weddings and double that in major events.
  • Published in a couple of Urban magazines and websites.
  • 5 page spread published in Black Hair and Beauty Magazine!
  • Worked with US Recording Artist Jeremih and his dancers at the MOBOs which was televised.
  • Expanded into children’s Face painting and worked a great event with my Twin and fellow MUA Donna Oliveiro.
  • More music videos and advertising campaigns.
  • Countless photoshoots and beating faces!
  • Increased my client consultations and so much more.

So what can you expect in the coming year…

Group workshops and more 1:1 beauty sessions

More videos on my YouTube Channel

3 new blog posts per week

Giveaways

Discounts

Fashion

Hair and Makeup

Reviews

Reader features and LOTS more.

I seriously am just getting started so I hope you will continue on this crazy journey with me! It wouldn’t be the same without you!

Celfie game can only get stronger in 2015! Below is like 25% of the looks of 2014 so you can only imagine! *covers eyes but peeks through*

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Besos loves!

TBH! xoxo


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Two is a Magic Number! Happy 2nd Blogiversary!

Hey Everyone!

So I mentioned in yesterday’s post that it was the second anniversary of my very first post yesterday. I can remember what it was like writing the first blog and thinking I have no clue what I am doing. I know I seem to have a lot to say all the time but I wondered if it would make sense.

The support and love I have received has been overwhelming. I probably put out on average a blog post every month and whilst I would certainly love to blog more often I am still finding my feet. Every time you view, comment, share, like but more importantly enjoy what I have to say, I am thankful. I love when you get in touch and ask questions or tell me what you want to see next on the blog. I love your support for a girl who didn’t know a thing about beauty or make-up (apart from not wearing black lip liner outside of high school). THANK YOU for riding with me after all this time and for giving me the drive to keep on keeping on.

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I have posted about times that I wanted to give up and the frustrations of thinking that I wasn’t reaching anyone. As long as one person finds something in my blog then I am happy. I am in a place in my life where I am truly getting comfortable in my skin and that means that I am overjoyed being able to reach one person with my blog!

Check out some of my blogs from the beginning, here  and here and just for good measure, here!

So here’s to another year and another year after that and many more after that. Hope you will continue to roll with me!

Below is my face of the day for International Women’s day! Used my Sleek Eden Palette again (more details to follow).

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Besos!

TBH! aka Donna-Marie Holder 🙂

xoxo


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International Women’s Day 2014!

Hey Everyone!

As I grow older and more mature I appreciate and celebrate being a Woman. So many lessons I have learnt over the years that I truly didn’t understand until I became a woman fully. Whether you are a Mother, Sister, Daughter, Aunt, Grandmother, God-Sister- WOMAN! Whether you work in an office or at home, a cleaner or CEO- WOMAN! You breathe life into this world. You have been given a gift from God to bring life into this World. You run the world- thanks Beyonce.

Celebrate with me and let’s work together. Not against each other. Let’s support each other, grow with each other, guide and give to each other. Let’s be there when one of us is down and help to raise them up. I know that I want to focus on being a better Mother, Partner, Sister and Daughter. A better friend and all round better person. This is not just on days like today but EVERYDAY!

Thank you to those who came before us and paved the way for us to realise our dreams. Thank you to our foremothers who carried the weight of the world on their backs so we could see the world and be a part of it. Thank you to women in our family whatever their role for inspiring us and doing whatever they had to  to nurture and support our growth and development. WE THANK YOU! WE LOVE YOU! WE HONOUR YOU!

 

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Whatever you are doing today be inspired as a Woman!

Have a great day!

Besos!

TBH! xoxo

 

 

 

 


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Happy New Me!

Happy Year to you! Happy New Year to your families, friends and indeed everyone, everywhere!

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I have been away for a little bit trying to evaluate some things. This blog included. I felt anxious, fearful and confused about whether or not to continue this blog as I tried to figure out whether or not I really had a voice that people wanted to hear. My mind was full of all the negative energy that eats away at your creativity and self-belief. My sisters in blog and also special friends, Kaye (Beautiful Kayekie) and Amanda (Etta’s Threads) supported and helped me understand what I was feeling. Ultimately their advice along with some prayer and internal dialogue brought me back.

I love BLOGGING. I LOVE MY BLOG! I guess I felt like I was letting you guys down by not blogging as often as I would like. I felt like my content may have become redundant and a little boring for some of you. So I needed to regroup and reevaluate. I am back and feeling better than ever, New Me (blogging me) and New Year!

So what does this new blogging me look like? Well, let’s just say it will include lots of ways for you to interact with me. More make-up, beauty, hair, skin care and so much more. I don’t want to give it all away now but let’s just say you will be hearing a whole lot more from me in 2014 and beyond.

Thank you for sticking around and not giving up on me. Thanks for every comment that you make, every share, every like or every discussion about me or my blog. Thank you for being understanding and more importantly for giving up your time to check out what I have to say.

Special Thank you to Kaye and Amanda. I truly love you guys. You mean more to me than I truly express!

Happy New Yearmay it be filled with the love and laughter that give life extra measure!

Besos!

The Beauty Holder! xoxo

Later: My Blog in Review! 2013 on rewind!

Tomorrow: My favourite products of 2013


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I’m on YouTube!

Hey everyone, I did it! Not only have I set up my YouTube channel, I posted my first video!!!

It is a weirdly nerve-racking experience to say the least but I am seriously glad that I listened to my family and friends and did it. The  plan for my channel is to do make-up tutorials, product reviews, talk about beauty, skin-care and hair. It will also feature my weight-loss journey and anything else I can throw into the pot.

It is important to me that it is interactive and just as I do here, I want to encourage you all to get in touch . Let me know what you want to see, learn, know about. This channel is for you, hopefully seeing me come out of my comfort zone on video will show that if you believe it, you can achieve it (gonna start singing, I believe I can fly).

This is early stages, so whilst I do not have a fancy camera or special lighting, don’t let that discourage you. Some of my kind friends have volunteered (be forced to) be models for me so you can see looks on different skin tones, eyes shapes and simply other than me. Men, you have not been neglected either as will be making sure that there is plenty for you. Think of it as this blog- but in video form.

I want to assure all of my amazing blog followers that I will not be leaving you out. I love this blog and this is where it all began so I do not plan on quitting my blog! Blog forever!

Still with me? Great! Here is a link to my channel below. I would love it if you share, rate, comment and also subscribe. You won’t regret it!

That's me on that screen!

 

My Channel- The Beauty Holder (If you have any problems with the link, let me know. You can also search for me. You will know it is me- you can tell that gapped smile anywhere)!

Thank you for your support. Your love, advice, and encourage makes this tough girl from Brooklyn, melt! If any of you reading this are on YouTube, let me know. I will be glad to check you out and support.

Love you all!

Besos!

TBH! xoxo