thebeautyholder

Redefining YOUR Beauty…


1 Comment

Collective Dress Haul 2017 |👗

Hey Loves,

It’s Fri-YAY!!! I feel like I have been anxiously awaiting the weekend for a couple of days. Honestly, I do not like to wish the days away but it has been one of those weeks. How are y’all doing? How are things?

Excited to be blogging and vlogging and getting back to me again! There is something about expressing yourself in an unapologetic way. Just being who you are and seriously making no apologies for that! I digress…

Building the confidence to wear dresses again has been an uphill battle. The confidence in dresses is one thing but the confidence overall in this new body of mine is another. More on confidence coming soon. You can always check here for some tips that have worked for me in the past. I did not think I would be able to rock bandage dresses or even mini dresses so this has pushed my fashion in a different direction.

So I recently went on a shopping spree… for some occasionwear for a couple of events I have coming up. These dresses made me feel beautiful and put a smile on my face that did not leave so I knew they were winners! One was my Valentine’s dress… can you guess which one? Let me know which is your fave! Shoutout to SOUNDATION whose new song ‘WAITING’ is used in the video. Link to the song is in video description box!

  1. Hold Your Head Bandage Dress | Dark Orange | Size S | Fashion Nova
  2. Ripple Dress | Black | UK 8 | Lipsy
  3. Mesh Ruched Bodycon Dress | Floral Print | UK 8 | Missguided
  4. Morticia Dress | Black | Size S | Fashion Nova
  5. Plunge Bandage Dress Midi | Rose | UK 10 | Missguided
  6. Kocktails Bandage Dress | Deep Red | Size S | Fashion Nova
  7. Nature Made Dress | Denim Blue | Size S | Fashion Nova
  8. Off the Shoulder Jumpsuit | Grey | UK 10 | Missguided
  9. Nova Boost Jumpsuit | Black | Size S | Fashion Nova with Duster Coat | Pink | UK 8 | Primark 

For my thoughts and feelings about Fashion Nova, watch this video below.

Hope you enjoyed this post. I have some beauty related ones coming up for you next as I know my old school followers have missed them!

Appreciate you steady supporting me and I thank you 🙂

Big hugs and extra besos 💋

TBH! xoxo


5 Comments

Totally DISTRESSED Out!

Hey Loves!

Hope you all are full of love and happiness in abundance… and then some! How are you? How are things? Let me know what’s good with ya! 🙂

So, let’s be honest! The ‘distressed’ look (clothes with holes, rips, and bleach as a starter) has been around forever. I know dear old Kanye West likes to think he is the inventor of all things but we know better! The idea of rocking worn out clothes or ones that look like they have been in a fight, with a bear, is not a new concept for real. That is the thing with ‘trends’ they just keep on coming back round and round! My 80’s babies know what I mean. If FAME (I wanna live forever) was life, then you had off the shoulder shirts and leggings with holes and the whole shebang. I love the revival of it all but I don’t love the extortionate prices some stores are charging to get the look. Why pay when you can do it yourself.

What is even better is that when you distress your own clothes you can:

  • create your own unique pieces
  • upstyle (see what I did there) some of those items in your wardrobe that have not seen the light of day for a while
  • you DO NOT need to be a seamstress…I am no professional!
  • save some money

This look is for anyone and there is no age limit on fashion as I say. I am not sure my Daddy would approve of me walking around with holes in my leggings! So raid your closet, your Daddy’s, Momma’s, Boyfriend, Girlfriend or WHOEVER! It is time to get totally distressed out! Below I have used 5 pieces from my wardrobe that I no longer wear. I have not taken the time to be neat or precise and have only used scissors or my hands! So let’s get ripping!!!!!

Sorry the colour is slightly off due to the lighting and flash.

Leggings!

Either fold in half or down the middle invisible seam line and then cut lines as wide as you want. I skipped the knee on one pair and only did my calf and thigh area and then went all the way down on the other! Simples!

Sweater!

The cold shoulder is the rage so just cut around the collar all the way to the back tag so you can have the choker effect which is also big in the game right now. Two looks in one! Boom! Boom! Shake! Shake the room!

picture_20170208_201328153      picture_20170208_201608247

You can also take an old hoodie and just cut the hood off for the ultimate nod to the 80’s style icons…think Flashdance (if you don’t know these movies…google them, please)!

T-Shirts!

Whether you want small detail or big in your face style, this is what you make it. Think about adding a gorgeous bralette that will peek through for added effect!

 

Beauty Holder Tips!

  • Don’t try to be too precise with cutting lines. It is no fun that way and will drive you crazy.
  • Take it up a notch and add lace, ribbons and bleach/ dye it up if you have the time
  • Cut or rip where you want. You do not have to imitate anyone else. This is all about your style
  • ROCK it with confidence and PRIDE. This is your handy work.  You will probably get asked where did you get your top from and enjoy letting everyone know it is an original, darling!
  • Now this is not going to be for everyone but it is fashion and therefore it is fun! Well to me it is!

Hope you enjoyed this post! I may make a video for my channel on how I jazz up some of my other pieces, so make sure you’re subscribed. There will be a new video this weekend so stay tuned. Link below!

The BeautyHolder

Let me know what you think? Will you try any of these looks? Have you distressed your own pieces?

Besos! 💋

TBH! xoxo


10 Comments

I’m Back and Better!👌🏾

Hey Loves,

This first sentence has been written so many times and backspaced just as many. I mean how do I honestly start off this post considering I haven’t written one in so long! Actually, that is not all the way true. I have been blogging in my mind for the past 8 or so months; those thoughts have just not made their way out of the chambers in my mind. I guess some have broken free now and it feels good to say I’m back and I’m better! What does that even mean, though? Sounded good when Bryson Tiller’s dulcet tones sang it in ‘Don’t’ but in my world, it means more than I may be able to express right now.

I wanted to take a break from social media. I wanted to take some time for myself, to understand some of the things I was going through. I wanted some of my mental to catch up with my physical change. Yes, I intentionally chose the word wanted! I needed to look after my health, which was telling me I was a priority and not an afterthought. I wanted to look in the mirror and not pick myself apart because what I saw did not match up to what was ‘liked’ in the fickle beauty industry.

You see, no matter how confident we appear we all have inner battles that require us to reset our thinking so we can remind ourselves how AWESOME we are! Awesome AF! Rewiring some of my thinking has pushed me. Challenged me. Trained me. Strengthened me. Life has taken a series of interesting turns and I am grateful to God for seeing me through. Learning, evolving and continuing to focus on being the BEST me I can be… NO LIMITS!

So yes, your girl is back and better! Better in part also to many of you and your fantastic messages and love. Big thanks to those of you who got in touch telling me that you missed the blog. Missed me, and my small contribution in the form of this blog that does its own thing. Thank you for encouraging me and for sharing ways I have inspired you. Those that know me, know that I really love this blog and what it represents. The strange goings on from a chick that loves family, friends, Brooklyn, music, makeup Trey Songz and so much more! I have missed you all and pray that you are good and life is all it needs to be for you right now- especially in these trying times!

I’m gonna end by saying THANK YOU to everyone who voted for me in the Best Makeup Artist 💄 category at last year’s AFRO MODEL AWARDS! I don’t think I will ever get over the shock of winning. It was very soon after that night that I took time out. I put shout-outs on Twitter and Facebook but let me holla on here too. I am so grateful and blessed at the recognition and hope it raises your spirits and reminds you that you can do and be anything you want to. No matter your age or the stage you’re at in life! Your journey is in your hands!

20160529_210951 20160529_185839 20160529_172958

Wishing you all the love in the universe… see you in the next post!

Besos! 💋

TBH! xoxo

p.s. I know for some there are more questions and things you want to know. Not everything is for the blog and what is will be on the blog in due course!


Leave a comment

Camo(uflage) Cutie…

Hey Loves!

Outfit of the Night look below for a friend’s birthday dinner. Details below!

Oversized Sweater:  Missguided | Camo style jeans : Discovery clothing (Florida) | Black Ankle Boots : New Look | Gold Hoops : Primark | Love Name Chain : Gifted

Look out for a hair update coming soon!

Don’t forget to connect with me! 

Twitter: @thebeautyholder

YouTube: TheBeautyHolder

Instagram: thebeautyholder

FaceBook: The Beauty Holder

New video goes live on my channel this weekend! 🎉

 


4 Comments

Sweater Weather!☔️⛈❄️

Hey Loves,

Hope you’re enjoying hump day and having a great week in general!

Everyone has been commenting on what a mild winter we are having here in the UK. Where I am based in London, we have had some cool conditions but nothing like the snow storms in the US or other parts of the world. We did have some pretty gnarly wind this past weekend though and I for one was walking around looking like some windswept girl for most of it. I don’t mean windswept like Mary Poppins either!

If you checked out Cardigan Casual then you will know I am all about ease. Here are 2 of my most recent looks. Thanks to Ray Ray Milz and Lils for their picture taking skills! 🙂

NY State of Mind

 

Navy NY Snapback: gifted | Navy High Neck Varsity Sweater : Primark | Washed out Jeans: Matalan | Nike Air Force Ones: gifted

Just Kickin’ It

 

Black Knitted Hat with Bobble : H&M | Grey and Black New York 1988 Hooded Sweater : Primark | Black Mens Sweat Pants : Primark | Timberland Glastonbury Inch Boot : gifted | Backpack: birthday gift from my girl Glemzi | Black Jacket : from US 

I have to tell you the second look was so how I used to dress when I came to London in 1994. Everything was baggy and hanging off me. I miss those carefree days. I think I am gonna have to keep rocking this look for a while… that is as long as my Son doesn’t bust me for wearing his sweats! 🙈

So what was your fave look? What are your staple pieces for the winter season?

Hope you enjoyed this post!

Coming up next: A Valentines Make-up Look and my fave looks of 2015!

Besos 💋

TBH xoxo

 


5 Comments

So, I’m 40! Now what?!

Hey Loves,

I’m still on a blogging streak and I hope that you are enjoying the current posts populating your mailboxes. I know there have been through peaks and troughs with my blog but I am glad that you all have stuck with me. Please remember you can comment and share your thoughts on anything I post. I love interacting with you!

This is one of those posts I have been writing in my mind for a while. I don’t know why the thought of turning 40 brought about so much anxiety. Actually, I do know. It’s because for most of my life I have put unnecessary pressure on myself to have certain things done before 40 and not all of them have materialised. On my birthday,  I sat and thought…

So, you’re 40! Now what?!

So you’re not married, yet! So you haven’t had more children! You haven’t travelled the world and become the dancer you thought you would when you were little. You’ve been hurt by those closest to you. You’ve not got money like you once did. Blah, Blah and Blah once more. What I decided to say to all of that and the many other comments beating me with a stick over my head, was SO WHAT!!!

Yep! SO WHAT! I even said it to those people brave enough to comment on my life without knowing anything about me or my life. SO FREAKING WHAT!

It has taken me a while to admit it but I have had a wonderful life in many respects. It has not been without it’s ups and downs but I am grateful to reach the age of 40 and to have accomplished many of the things that I have done. I pretty much had my life planned out by 18 and expected to achieve certain milestones by 25, then 30, then 35 and 40 etc. What I have not done is acknowledge that even the smallest victories have shaped me. The toughest trials have moulded me and through God’s grace I have come out on top.

I have battled severe depression and self harming (which many may not know). I struggle with having a beautiful Son who is on the Autistic Spectrum and all that entails. I have had weight struggles for a large part of my life and have wanted to end my life. I have been betrayed by ‘friends’ and family. I am constantly judged. That is the shortened version. I say this to say that the life I had planned was not what God had planned. I now realise I had to go through this to become stronger and wiser.

So I am 40. I am a number older than I was last year and that number represents so much. It represents in part, my growth, my knowledge, my love and determination to continue to reach for the stars and beyond. To love hard and receive love in return. That my age doesn’t define me or my ability. It doesn’t define what others think of me or my life.

We have become so fixated with judging what we do not understand. If you haven’t lived it, how can you judge it? I may not have the level of success that you want me to have but it doesn’t mean that I do not have success. I may not be married but it doesn’t mean I do not have love or am in love. My Son may not speak but it doesn’t mean he can’t communicate his love in another way- which he does! 

Right now you may be going through something you don’t understand. It hurts and you want it to stop. IT WILL! You’re in a stage of metamorphosis. You are changing from your ‘caterpillar’ form to become the beautiful butterfly version of yourself that is stronger, wiser and more beautiful than you can currently imagine. Don’t give up on you. Don’t give up!

Enjoy life and your journey. Live your life and don’t let it live you. Make mistakes and learn from them. Don’t pressure yourself to react to what the world wants you to. Follow your heart and instinct…no one knows YOU like YOU!

I am blessed to have reached the beautiful butterfly age of 40. Many others have not been as fortunate and I refuse to let another day pass letting the past mistakes I have made hold me back from living a happier and healthier life. Age truly ain’t nothing but a number. A number that increases in health, wealth and strength!

Thank you for sharing this blog with me and on a more personal level some part of my 40 years. Here’s to many more for you and me!

If you are struggling with depression or self harming or anything else I have mentioned in this post. Don’t suffer in silence. Talk to someone you trust and let them help you. Here are some links you may find useful.

Help with depression: https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/a-to-z/d/depression

Autism: http://www.autism.org.uk/about/what-is/asd.aspx

Anxiety and Panic Attacks: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/anxiety-and-panic-attacks/#.VrETtcdszEY

I also have a blog on finding confidence on your journey that has some tips if you are feeling anxious about things in your life. You can find out more here.

This post is dedicated to my pudding, Elle. I am always here for you. I love you! ❤ xoxo (p.s I have asked Elle if she is ok with me dedicating this blog to her).

Besos 💋

TBH! xoxo

 

 


4 Comments

#CopMyCloset | Birthday Behaviour!

Hey Loves!

So I finally hit the BIG 4-0! Felt like I was in preparation for this ‘event’ for the whole of 2015. Why? I will tell you about that in my next post.

Here is a quick look at the outfits I wore for both my pre-birthday dinner and my actual birthday dinner. Red was certainly the colour of the season…I guess it always is during Christmas!

I wanted to spend as much time as possible with my family and friends on my birthday and I didn’t take a lot of solo pictures so apologies for the quality. I will be working on some quality pics for 2016 and beyond!

Pre-Birthday Fab!

IMG_2825

 

Dress | Fleur East x Lipsy | Gold Bracelet | Coach | Gold Strappy Heels | New Look (about 6 years old)

This dress was beautiful up close and personal. It had a thigh revealing split on one side with a wrap and ruched detail at the top. Extremely comfortable and lightweight. Only drawback is the top of the dress wasn’t too fitted and so was a little big. I am sure that it is easy enough to have taken in though.

Birthday Night Out

IMG_2829-2

Dress | Ruched Midi Length Dress from Florida Boutique | Shoes | Nude Pumps New Look | Bracelets | Coach | Earrings | Diamante Hoops (naturally) Aldo

As mentioned earlier, I am really going to focus on taking some quality outfit of the day pictures and include accessories and shoes also. I rely on quick snaps from my phone but they don’t always give you the full pow that I want them to! It’s coming loves!

I also didn’t cop a full face pic of my makeup look which was a gorgeous green smokey eye with nude lips. Think I will try and recreate it in coming weeks!

Hope you enjoyed this post!

Coming up next on the blog: I’m 40! Now what?

Besos 💋

TBH! xoxo