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Collective Dress Haul 2017 |👗

Hey Loves,

It’s Fri-YAY!!! I feel like I have been anxiously awaiting the weekend for a couple of days. Honestly, I do not like to wish the days away but it has been one of those weeks. How are y’all doing? How are things?

Excited to be blogging and vlogging and getting back to me again! There is something about expressing yourself in an unapologetic way. Just being who you are and seriously making no apologies for that! I digress…

Building the confidence to wear dresses again has been an uphill battle. The confidence in dresses is one thing but the confidence overall in this new body of mine is another. More on confidence coming soon. You can always check here for some tips that have worked for me in the past. I did not think I would be able to rock bandage dresses or even mini dresses so this has pushed my fashion in a different direction.

So I recently went on a shopping spree… for some occasionwear for a couple of events I have coming up. These dresses made me feel beautiful and put a smile on my face that did not leave so I knew they were winners! One was my Valentine’s dress… can you guess which one? Let me know which is your fave! Shoutout to SOUNDATION whose new song ‘WAITING’ is used in the video. Link to the song is in video description box!

  1. Hold Your Head Bandage Dress | Dark Orange | Size S | Fashion Nova
  2. Ripple Dress | Black | UK 8 | Lipsy
  3. Mesh Ruched Bodycon Dress | Floral Print | UK 8 | Missguided
  4. Morticia Dress | Black | Size S | Fashion Nova
  5. Plunge Bandage Dress Midi | Rose | UK 10 | Missguided
  6. Kocktails Bandage Dress | Deep Red | Size S | Fashion Nova
  7. Nature Made Dress | Denim Blue | Size S | Fashion Nova
  8. Off the Shoulder Jumpsuit | Grey | UK 10 | Missguided
  9. Nova Boost Jumpsuit | Black | Size S | Fashion Nova with Duster Coat | Pink | UK 8 | Primark 

For my thoughts and feelings about Fashion Nova, watch this video below.

Hope you enjoyed this post. I have some beauty related ones coming up for you next as I know my old school followers have missed them!

Appreciate you steady supporting me and I thank you 🙂

Big hugs and extra besos 💋

TBH! xoxo


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So, I’m 40! Now what?!

Hey Loves,

I’m still on a blogging streak and I hope that you are enjoying the current posts populating your mailboxes. I know there have been through peaks and troughs with my blog but I am glad that you all have stuck with me. Please remember you can comment and share your thoughts on anything I post. I love interacting with you!

This is one of those posts I have been writing in my mind for a while. I don’t know why the thought of turning 40 brought about so much anxiety. Actually, I do know. It’s because for most of my life I have put unnecessary pressure on myself to have certain things done before 40 and not all of them have materialised. On my birthday,  I sat and thought…

So, you’re 40! Now what?!

So you’re not married, yet! So you haven’t had more children! You haven’t travelled the world and become the dancer you thought you would when you were little. You’ve been hurt by those closest to you. You’ve not got money like you once did. Blah, Blah and Blah once more. What I decided to say to all of that and the many other comments beating me with a stick over my head, was SO WHAT!!!

Yep! SO WHAT! I even said it to those people brave enough to comment on my life without knowing anything about me or my life. SO FREAKING WHAT!

It has taken me a while to admit it but I have had a wonderful life in many respects. It has not been without it’s ups and downs but I am grateful to reach the age of 40 and to have accomplished many of the things that I have done. I pretty much had my life planned out by 18 and expected to achieve certain milestones by 25, then 30, then 35 and 40 etc. What I have not done is acknowledge that even the smallest victories have shaped me. The toughest trials have moulded me and through God’s grace I have come out on top.

I have battled severe depression and self harming (which many may not know). I struggle with having a beautiful Son who is on the Autistic Spectrum and all that entails. I have had weight struggles for a large part of my life and have wanted to end my life. I have been betrayed by ‘friends’ and family. I am constantly judged. That is the shortened version. I say this to say that the life I had planned was not what God had planned. I now realise I had to go through this to become stronger and wiser.

So I am 40. I am a number older than I was last year and that number represents so much. It represents in part, my growth, my knowledge, my love and determination to continue to reach for the stars and beyond. To love hard and receive love in return. That my age doesn’t define me or my ability. It doesn’t define what others think of me or my life.

We have become so fixated with judging what we do not understand. If you haven’t lived it, how can you judge it? I may not have the level of success that you want me to have but it doesn’t mean that I do not have success. I may not be married but it doesn’t mean I do not have love or am in love. My Son may not speak but it doesn’t mean he can’t communicate his love in another way- which he does! 

Right now you may be going through something you don’t understand. It hurts and you want it to stop. IT WILL! You’re in a stage of metamorphosis. You are changing from your ‘caterpillar’ form to become the beautiful butterfly version of yourself that is stronger, wiser and more beautiful than you can currently imagine. Don’t give up on you. Don’t give up!

Enjoy life and your journey. Live your life and don’t let it live you. Make mistakes and learn from them. Don’t pressure yourself to react to what the world wants you to. Follow your heart and instinct…no one knows YOU like YOU!

I am blessed to have reached the beautiful butterfly age of 40. Many others have not been as fortunate and I refuse to let another day pass letting the past mistakes I have made hold me back from living a happier and healthier life. Age truly ain’t nothing but a number. A number that increases in health, wealth and strength!

Thank you for sharing this blog with me and on a more personal level some part of my 40 years. Here’s to many more for you and me!

If you are struggling with depression or self harming or anything else I have mentioned in this post. Don’t suffer in silence. Talk to someone you trust and let them help you. Here are some links you may find useful.

Help with depression: https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/a-to-z/d/depression

Autism: http://www.autism.org.uk/about/what-is/asd.aspx

Anxiety and Panic Attacks: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/anxiety-and-panic-attacks/#.VrETtcdszEY

I also have a blog on finding confidence on your journey that has some tips if you are feeling anxious about things in your life. You can find out more here.

This post is dedicated to my pudding, Elle. I am always here for you. I love you! ❤ xoxo (p.s I have asked Elle if she is ok with me dedicating this blog to her).

Besos 💋

TBH! xoxo

 

 


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#CopMyCloset | Birthday Chic (for cheap)! £$€

Hey Everyone!

Hope this blog meets you all in the best of health and happiness. I know it’s been a while. Got a couple of posts out this week to hopefully make up for it!

My #CopMyCloset posts have been getting a great response. Thank you! For reading them, for sharing them and even more so just for taking the time to embrace this feature.

I am still currently on a lifestyle change working on my fitness and much more. Some of that struggle means having to get clothes that fit. That can be expensive and I have some tips on that in a future blog! It seems like I am always out celebrating a birthday and this outfit is from another such happy occasion. This was on a budget though and I was pretty pleased with my finds!

I asked earlier on my Facebook page if anyone could guess the cost of this look (without the shoes). It was under £20 and the breakdown below.

                                           full length DM  Lizzy and DM

BodySuit: PrettyLittleThing £7 | Wide Leg Striped Pants: Primark £7 | Shoes: River Island (about 8 years old) £45 approx | Lace Bralet: Boux Avenue £26

Both the PLT and Primark items were sale bargains… LOVE! The bodysuits come up big so I would suggest getting a smaller size than your normal. It is a wrap bodysuit with no clasps or hooks so be mindful of this when ordering. Shucks, be mindful when wearing as those toilet breaks are no joke! It also is very revealing in the front so I chose a bralet as opposed to just a bra for the right amount of sexy that I could manage (covers eyes).  I purchased this when I was a fuller size. Due to the wide leg of the pant you may want to try smaller. There is a slight stretch but this is very slight and Primark trousers are known to run smaller.

Happy Birthday to the beautiful Elizabeth! We hope you enjoyed your birthday surprise. It was a great night and loads of fun. Shouts to Lils, Ray Ray Milz, Delrose and Amanda! What happens in Camden… stays there!

                                        Birthday Girl and DM 20150613_194549

                                                 ALL THE LADIES

I hope you enjoyed this post. I’m sorry they are few and far between but I am working on getting back to regular posting soon!

Have a lovely week loves!

Besos 💋

TBH! xoxo


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#CopMyCloset | Body Party!🎊

Hey Loves! Hope your weekend has been as amazing as you are and you are ready for an awesome week ahead! Quick look at what I wore for a double birthday celebration last night! My friends Korell and Jodie were born on the same day (16th May) and had their respective events last night. Intimate dinner with Korell and his family and friends and Jodie had posh drinks and nibbles. Although I don’t drink I wanted to spend time with both. So what to wear to two different events? Easy a nude body suit with jeans and heels! Simple!

 Body Party Full Outfit Body Party Full Outfit

Nude Bodysuit: MissGuided | Distressed Jeans : Matalan | Nude Cross stitch Pumps: New Look | Hair: Mine

nude pumps new look

These shoes are soooo gorgeous and comfortable they needed a close up! They will be a staple this season for sure. Who doesn’t love a good nude pump! I purposely didn’t wear a statement/ chunky necklace with this look and opted for 2 small chains from H&M not pictured.

Happy Birthday once again Jodes and KW. Wishing you both an wonderfully healthy and happy year now and always!

Jodes and DM Selfie  Korell and DM selfie

Glam look was nothing spectacular. Will post a makeup look this week as it has been a while!

Hope you enjoyed this post!

Besos 💋


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Beauty Is… ❤ featuring Mandisa!

Hey Everyone!

It’s Friday…Yay! That means it is time for another Beauty Is… feature. It has been a couple of months since my last one and the aim is to have one each month. This month I am excited to introduce to you Mandisa (you get beauty just from her name)! One of the great things about blogging is that you meet fellow bloggers with the same interests. Mandisa co-writes a blog, DivinelyRooted about natural hair. It is an honest mix of reviews, advice and life with natural hair. Want to find out more about this natural beauty… then read below!

Beautiful Mandisa

1: Do you wear makeup?!If so, when did you start?

-I do, I started at the ripe old age of 24 LOL

2: How would you describe your makeup style?

-Natural and nude.

3: What product can you not live without? (Skincare or makeup)

-I CAN NOT and WILL NOT live without mascara! It’s the easiest thing thing to do that can brighten up your whole face in like, 26 seconds! I keep buying new ones! I’m up to 6 now 🙊🙈

4: Breakdown your beauty regime?

-For an everyday look? I’m a teacher, so it’s very simple. I don’t have time to do too much. Usually it’s just mascara, because I’m always running late. If I want a beat face, I’ll go ahead and do foundation, highlight, contour, eyeshadow, and more!

5: Who is your Beauty Inspiration or icon?

-Rihanna! Her nude looks are to DIE for and I’m still trying to recreate them.

6: Makeup nightmare?

-Not blending my highlight! Yowza!

7: Any tips or secrets?

-To not get mascara everywhere, stick your finger over your eyelid as you apply.

8: In a sentence or two, explain what beauty truly means to you?!

-Beauty to me encompasses the whole person; body, soul, and mind.

Beautifully Beautiful Mandisa

Thank you so very much Mandisa for being beauty personified and taking part in this feature! Don’t forget you can find out more about Mandisa on her blog, Divinely Rooted.

We have a Lyrical Poet with a beautiful voice in next month’s feature. Don’t miss out. Want to be featured? Just email me info@thebeautyholder.com or tweet me @thebeautyholder

Stay tuned for tomorrow’s blog post!

Have an awesome Friday and weekend!

Besos 💋

TBH! xoxo


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#CopMyCloset 👢👓 : All Black Everything!

Hey Loves!

Hope you are all keeping well as we coast into the Spring season. I am back with another instalment of the above. A sneak peek into my own little fashion world and style.

Ok, so I know most Makeup Artists wear black on assignment. Why? Maybe because it seems to give off a more professional look or just for the classic and elegant look of it. There is no written rule that says you have to wear black and if I am being honest I actually prefer to wear bold colours when on shoots or working with clients. For whatever reason on this day, I chose to wear black… all black.

This was a couple weeks back where I did make-up for the Compliment Me Fashion Show in London, assisted by the lovely Laura Garcia.

AllBlackEverything ABETBHAll Black Everything

Outfit Details

High Waisted Skinny Jeans: New Look / Black Camisole: No Name $5 from New York (about 8 years ago)/ Black Lace Sweater: Asda (about 4 years old)/ Brown and Black Buckle Boots: Matalan/ Gold plated 2 Link Necklace: Primark

Everything should still be available at time this is published unless otherwise stated.

Big thanks to my fab assistant, Laura (below) for her hard work. She was thrown in at the very deep end and did the best job ever. Be on the look out for pics from the show on my Facebook page! Thank you also to the team at Compliment Me London for having us be a part of a great event benefitting Cancer Research!

Laura and TBH

If you follow me on Instagram then you’ll know that my hair and look has pretty much changed since this event! So if you’re out and you see me… don’t be afraid to say hey!

Until next time!

Besos 💋

TBH! xoxo


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Finding Confidence on YOUR journey…💬

Hey Loves,

I have seriously been receiving so much love regarding my lifestyle change and weight loss journey. Thank you so much for not only reading my story but also sharing it, commenting, liking etc. I didn’t expect it to be such a popular post but I greatly appreciate you taking your time to learn more about me.

This post has somewhat been spurred on by the feedback I have received. My attachment to the wrong foods was a mixture of things but mainly emotional. If I was sad, I ate. If I was upset, I ate. If I was happy to a certain degree, time to celebrate and therefore, I ate. All now past tense. I no longer find comfort in the wrong foods and this is how I did it.

  • Looking BACKWARDS means you can’t see FORWARDS! 

I could not undo all the years of poor eating choices and to keep dwelling on it meant I was not able to move forward. I know firsthand how easy it is to stay stagnant in the pond of self-pity. I made poor choices in the past and I was not about to continue to keep doing it. What has been done has been done. Now time to change it.

  • Raise yourself UP instead of pulling yourself DOWN!

I used to enjoy being negative about myself. It allowed me to have an excuse and I was comfortable with that. If I called myself FAT, UGLY, NASTY and all those horrible words then if someone else did it, it would not hurt as much. I’ve spoken about changing vocabulary in the past. It is so important and something that makes and instant difference. Appreciate how far you have come. Do not allow anyone around you to put you down or use words such as those above to describe you. Compliment yourself and celebrate achievements. I have said it before, big or small they are all YOU and they are all achievements you should be proud of.

  • Feel your EMOTIONS! DEAL with YOUR emotions!

If you have been emotionally attached to food then you are likely to be familiar with this cycle. You feel sad, so you eat (or you don’t eat- which is also another way to be emotionally affected) and eat some more. You overeat until the point that you feel better, then you instantly feel bad for eating so much and that makes you more upset, so you begin eating again. Break that cycle by dealing with the emotion. Many will say easier said than done, but not always. Look at the reason for the emotion. Then ask yourself what the food will do to remove that emotion or banish it or indeed correct it. What I will say is some emotions run deep and you may need additional assistance to help you deal with or support it but try not to use food as that assistance or any other substance for that matter. It can certainly make matters worse in the long run.

Please note: Speaking to a professional or seeking additional help is in no way a sign of weakness or something to be ashamed of. We can always use extra help and support and sometimes this helps us start a journey and give us the strength and determination to continue!

  • LOVE is ALL around you!

You feel alone and that no one understands you! You are in a room full of people yet you feel lonely. We often push those closest to us away as it is easier to build a wall and isolate yourself than to believe the positivity and love from others. I want you to embrace it. I want you to completely let it engulf you. Immerse yourself in all the goodness and love that is being shown to you. Trust that your family and friends and those who truly know and want the best for you REALLY do want the best for your. Accept compliments with a smile and thank you rather than shooting them down with disbelief. Shower yourself with love. Positive quotes, Bible verses and powerful words of encouragements. Read something first thing in the morning before you leave bed ready to attack the day with a happy heart. Do the same before bed. Pray, meditate, chant and be ready for the goodness that will come to you.

  • Stave off Negativity!

Walk away from it, ignore it and do not let it suck your positivity. It has no place in your life.

  • It has to be YOU!

How often do you actually spend with yourself? Truthfully! Sitting alone in the room checking your phone whilst catching up with your iPad doesn’t really count. Shut down the technology, close the door, light some candles and breathe. Really breathe all the way from deep in your stomach. Tune out everything and everyone. Even if you can only manage 5 mins to begin with, you will be surprised at how much this brings to your life if you find time for you everyday. You can even do it with the family or friends as long as everyone is agreed on how important it is. Just remember you are tuning into YOU!

Believe me when I say that I still have to dig deep for the inner strength at times. It is not always easy but it is achievable My lifestyle change is focused around food and so some of the above where more specific to that. This does not mean that you cannot transfer them to your journey or take elements out to support you on your way.

If you would like to know more about some of the techniques I use on my journey or foods that make me happy or simply anything else, please don’t hesitate to get in touch. I am with you all the way!

Hope you enjoyed this post! Thank you…for all the love.

SMILE, LAUGH AND LOVE MORE!

Smile more… the beauty holder

Besos! 💋

TBH! xoxo