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#CopMyCloset | Fashion Feature! 👗👠💄

Hey Everyone!

Happy Monday or whatever day of the week you happen to read this post! I’m sure I’ve mentioned in past blogs that I am not a huge fashionista. I tend to follow my own drum when it comes to fashion. Not always trend conscious and that is seriously ok!  I just go with the flow. As I broaden my blog and get a little more personal, I decided to share some of my style with you in this new feature I am calling #CopMyCloset | If you read my last post on my lifestyle change you’ll know I am getting used to this new shape of mine. Still curvy and loving it but working on getting healthier day by day.

Any fashion posts like this will either feature that hashtag or a #GetMyGlam one with details on my makeup look for the outfit I am rocking. Check below for outfit details, you’ll also find out where I wore this look!

#CopMyCloset | The Beauty Holder  #CopMyCloset @TheBeautyHolder #CopMyCloset @TheBeautyHolder

Blazer: Oasis £40 | Top: Pale Pink Crop Top Topshop £7 | Jeans: High Waist Skinny Jeans Matalan £16 | Shoes: Pale Pink Court Shoes Primark £12 (about 5 years old)

Glam details to follow in a separate post!

A huge THANK YOU to my friend Liliana (who celebrated her birthday last week) for organising a great night out with her girlfriends. Perfect excuse to wear this outfit. She pulled off a movie night out for us all at a luxury cinema where you can drink and dine whilst you take in your cinematic pleasure. We saw 50 Shades of Grey, I can’t say there was any pleasure for me with the film but that is a whole other story! Thanks Lils (in the white dress below) and to all the other gorgeously fabulous ladies who were there. We had a blast and that was better than any movie! Shall we take a selfie? 🙈

Beautiful Ladies the ladies

Hope you enjoyed this feature! Let me know if you would like to see more posts like this. Tell me about your personal style! What do you clothes tell me about you?

Besos! 💋

TBH! xoxo


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Finding Confidence on YOUR journey…💬

Hey Loves,

I have seriously been receiving so much love regarding my lifestyle change and weight loss journey. Thank you so much for not only reading my story but also sharing it, commenting, liking etc. I didn’t expect it to be such a popular post but I greatly appreciate you taking your time to learn more about me.

This post has somewhat been spurred on by the feedback I have received. My attachment to the wrong foods was a mixture of things but mainly emotional. If I was sad, I ate. If I was upset, I ate. If I was happy to a certain degree, time to celebrate and therefore, I ate. All now past tense. I no longer find comfort in the wrong foods and this is how I did it.

  • Looking BACKWARDS means you can’t see FORWARDS! 

I could not undo all the years of poor eating choices and to keep dwelling on it meant I was not able to move forward. I know firsthand how easy it is to stay stagnant in the pond of self-pity. I made poor choices in the past and I was not about to continue to keep doing it. What has been done has been done. Now time to change it.

  • Raise yourself UP instead of pulling yourself DOWN!

I used to enjoy being negative about myself. It allowed me to have an excuse and I was comfortable with that. If I called myself FAT, UGLY, NASTY and all those horrible words then if someone else did it, it would not hurt as much. I’ve spoken about changing vocabulary in the past. It is so important and something that makes and instant difference. Appreciate how far you have come. Do not allow anyone around you to put you down or use words such as those above to describe you. Compliment yourself and celebrate achievements. I have said it before, big or small they are all YOU and they are all achievements you should be proud of.

  • Feel your EMOTIONS! DEAL with YOUR emotions!

If you have been emotionally attached to food then you are likely to be familiar with this cycle. You feel sad, so you eat (or you don’t eat- which is also another way to be emotionally affected) and eat some more. You overeat until the point that you feel better, then you instantly feel bad for eating so much and that makes you more upset, so you begin eating again. Break that cycle by dealing with the emotion. Many will say easier said than done, but not always. Look at the reason for the emotion. Then ask yourself what the food will do to remove that emotion or banish it or indeed correct it. What I will say is some emotions run deep and you may need additional assistance to help you deal with or support it but try not to use food as that assistance or any other substance for that matter. It can certainly make matters worse in the long run.

Please note: Speaking to a professional or seeking additional help is in no way a sign of weakness or something to be ashamed of. We can always use extra help and support and sometimes this helps us start a journey and give us the strength and determination to continue!

  • LOVE is ALL around you!

You feel alone and that no one understands you! You are in a room full of people yet you feel lonely. We often push those closest to us away as it is easier to build a wall and isolate yourself than to believe the positivity and love from others. I want you to embrace it. I want you to completely let it engulf you. Immerse yourself in all the goodness and love that is being shown to you. Trust that your family and friends and those who truly know and want the best for you REALLY do want the best for your. Accept compliments with a smile and thank you rather than shooting them down with disbelief. Shower yourself with love. Positive quotes, Bible verses and powerful words of encouragements. Read something first thing in the morning before you leave bed ready to attack the day with a happy heart. Do the same before bed. Pray, meditate, chant and be ready for the goodness that will come to you.

  • Stave off Negativity!

Walk away from it, ignore it and do not let it suck your positivity. It has no place in your life.

  • It has to be YOU!

How often do you actually spend with yourself? Truthfully! Sitting alone in the room checking your phone whilst catching up with your iPad doesn’t really count. Shut down the technology, close the door, light some candles and breathe. Really breathe all the way from deep in your stomach. Tune out everything and everyone. Even if you can only manage 5 mins to begin with, you will be surprised at how much this brings to your life if you find time for you everyday. You can even do it with the family or friends as long as everyone is agreed on how important it is. Just remember you are tuning into YOU!

Believe me when I say that I still have to dig deep for the inner strength at times. It is not always easy but it is achievable My lifestyle change is focused around food and so some of the above where more specific to that. This does not mean that you cannot transfer them to your journey or take elements out to support you on your way.

If you would like to know more about some of the techniques I use on my journey or foods that make me happy or simply anything else, please don’t hesitate to get in touch. I am with you all the way!

Hope you enjoyed this post! Thank you…for all the love.

SMILE, LAUGH AND LOVE MORE!

Smile more… the beauty holder

Besos! 💋

TBH! xoxo


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#TransformationTuesday | My Lifestyle Change! 💭

Hey Everyone,

Thanks for joining me. I have been getting requests lately of a more personal nature. Lifestyle, wellbeing etc. Ideally the main focus of my blog has always been beauty and makeup. That being said, the more personal posts prove extremely popular and I guess provides a little more insight into my life as Donna-Marie and not simply, The Beauty Holder!

I will endeavour to share some more of my world with you and broaden my blog into more than just makeup. Thank you for wanting to know more. So here is one of those more personal posts. Let me start by saying that this is a ‘personal’ journey. It is unique to me. Whilst I am not the first (nor will I be the last ) person to embark on a lifestyle change it is important to note that this is how I am doing it. It is not to pass judgement and I can only hope that if nothing else, anyone who needs it is encouraged.

On the 10th November 2014, I took the first steps to changing my lifestyle specifically related to food, health and emotional wellbeing. I talk of a journey and that is how I see it. I was finally ready to stop making excuses and to change things I was unhappy about.

Why now?

Well here is the back story. The short version. A couple days before it was one of my closest friend’s birthday. In fact it was the same person who has been working with me on my fitness and eating. You’ll find out more about Aaron in a bit and the pivotal role he has played as a friend and Personal Trainer. I was trying to find something to wear to his party. Nothing in my closet fit. Nothing in the store fit. Considering I had returned from the US a couple months before with clothes in tow, I was shocked to look in the mirror and really look at myself. When I looked at myself, I didn’t recognise who was staring back at me. My first thought was food and wanting to eat the frustration away. The amount of times I tried to find an excuse to not go the party. I didn’t wanna go and embarrass my friend by looking a mess. That’s how I felt. It was not just the physical it was the emotional side.

Many of you do not know me at all. I can’t sit here and tell you that I have always have an issue with food or my weight as that would be untrue. I had been a slim girl for the majority of my life, all through school and beyond. Yep, even living Stateside and eating everything in sight did nothing to affect my shape. As with many women, it changed after I had my son. Thing is he is 12 years old now, so there is no throwing that up in the mix anymore.

Diddy DM

Why was I overweight? Honest sucks right so here is the ‘sucky’ (got that from LC in The Hills) part.

  1. Bad/ poor eating habits
  2. No exercise
  3. Emotional frustration/ unhappiness/ depression
  4. Laziness
  5. Purposely gaining weight

I honestly did not realise how quickly it crept up on me. The last point above was how I felt when I was really unhappy at things in my life and so I made a conscious effort to gain weight so as to become unattractive to people. Silly Rabbit, tricks really are for kids, as that DID NOT work.

Most of this extra weight has been with me for about 6-7 years. I have fluctuated due to what I thought were quick fixes such as living on shakes and less than 400 calories a day. True to form though the weight crept back on. There were times when I was ok with being a fuller figured chick. Most of the time I was not. For those who want stats, at my biggest (October 2014, I was a size 20\22). I am currently a 14 (some stores a 16). That is in UK size.

DM Then/ Now Then Now/ dm

I knew I was emotionally attached to food earlier on last year, around June.  I started to switch out some of my poor food choices and it was working. I then had a really bad experience at a hair salon (more on that in another post) and I lost it. Food was my comfort and I was back to old habits.

So what changed?

I was tired of the excuses. I was tired of the control food had on me and not the other way round. I was tired of cancelling on friends because I was embarrassed. One of the biggest catalysts was changing to be a better role model for my son. My son is a young person with Autism and diet is a huge part of affecting his behaviour. I not only needed to change for me but for him. This time I had to make it for real.

My amazing friend Aaron deserves every accolade I could award him for truly being there for me. I met him at my old workplace and we have become close friends. He became really passionate about Nutrition and Personal Training and we would talk about it and he would give me tips and hints. At the time I wasn’t ready. He never shoved it in my face but instead remained supportive. After his party we spoke and I told him I was ready to really change my lifestyle and I have not looked back since. Aaron is supportive but firm. He is honest and always at the end of the phone with all my ‘can I do this’ type queries and there are always loads. What for me means the most is that he has not changed how he is with me as a friend because of my size.

What does that mean though?

It means that I am a lot more aware of what I put into my body. I have cut out processed foods and sugar (apart from natural sugar such as fruit). I don’t drink sodas (I was knocking back at least 3 a day). I eat loads more vegetables and balance them with protein and the right carbs. I drink 3L of water a day and love it- apart from the many toilet breaks! I do not take any pills, or supplements, no dietary aids- nothing. This is all done the clean eating and exercise way. The one that people call old fashioned. I guess I am old fashioned then. As a Vegetarian I thought this would never work but it has in so many ways. I have to make this clear. I EAT! I EAT LOTS! I simply eat better! I started working out with A (Aaron) in December 2014 one day a week. We are still at one day a week but as of this week I am going on my own a couple of days. That was a major change as I am not the biggest fan of the ‘gym culture’. I was petrified going it alone today but to be fair no one even noticed me. Yay! It is tough and there are times I want to give up. There are no quick fixes, this is no joke.

The biggest obstacle I faced was myself. My confidence, my ability to believe that I was worth more than what I was doing to myself. That my Son is worth more. You see it is not simply about size but what is inside. Knowing my worth, which is something I happily preach about to my clients but not believing it when it came to me and my life. I want to be healthy. Thick- Healthy cause this girl got some curves and they ain’t going nowhere! It is that simple. This is not just be skinny Donna-Marie and life will be good, it is understanding and educating myself and my family. Knowing that food does not solve my problems and that exercise (not matter how small) can release those chemicals in the body to make you happy. When I feel emotionally drained or happy I don’t reach for food like I did before. As I understand and appreciate more of how to deal with those feelings.

One day at a time. I am a lot older now so my body doesn’t bounce back like before. Every step is an achievement and I celebrate the big with the small. This very precious thing called life is extremely fragile and I for one have taken it for granted for far too long. This is me today- as in literally today…still on my journey posing in the posh bathrooms at Brent Cross!

Me todayStill me today

I want to say a really BIG THANK YOU to Aaron for everything you have done. I would never have been able to get this far without you. I am not there yet but this journey has been made easier having you by my side. I hope everyone at the old workplace will see what I have always seen… someone who has the biggest heart and is all-round pretty AMAZEBALLS!

My fantastic family and friends who do not see size when they see me, you are EVERYTHING!

No matter what journey you are on, you are not alone. Sometimes we need a little support or word of encouragement. This is not about knocking what anyone else does. This works for me. Whatever you do, just do your research (if you’re on a fitness, eating journey). Your journey is YOUR JOURNEY. No-one can start that journey for you but you. You will know when you’re ready. Good Luck!

Hope you enjoyed this little bit of DM. If there is anything else you would like to know then please get in touch.

If you want to get in touch with Aaron, you can find him on Twitter @ManLikeAaron_ or Instagram @aaron_gram

Thank you for reading!

Have a happy and healthy week!

Besos! 💋

TBH! xoxo


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Couple Shades of Grey! My Valentine’s Look! 💌

Hey Loves!

Hope you are all enjoying your weekend. I didn’t do a valentines series of makeup looks this year as I really didn’t have the time. So here is a little snippet of my Vday look. I am not the biggest fan of grey makeup on myself but this super subtle and easy.

Grey Smokes Grey Smokes closed Grey Smokes products

I used mostly drugstore products for this look and i kinda threw it together. No major blending as I have a bag load of brushes to wash. Any help will be greatly received! ☺

Product listing:

Original Beauty Blender/ Milani Lipstick Teddy Bare/ L’oreal True Match Foundations in Cappuccino and Golden Cappuccino / WetnWild Eyeshadow Palette in Tunnel Vision / Eyelure Lashes in 120 and Shape and Shade Brow Pencil and Tamer in Medium Brunette to Dark Blonde/ DUO Eyelash Adhesive/ Inglot for contour (not pictured)!

My top is soooooooooooo old. No exaggeration! It is about 6 years old  (maybe more) from Primark with a little blue camisole underneath. Grey jeans and flats. Sorry I didn’t have a full pic of the outfit. I am not use to taking full body pics but I am getting there!

Valentines Love

Hope you had a wonderful day no matter whether you were coupled up or chillin’ with the homies. Either way it is about sharing love all year round and not just on the 14th of the second month of the year.

Let me know what you did. Did you go to the cinema and see a certain film with a colour in the title similar to mine? Go out to eat or something completely random?

Besos Loves! Thanks for your continued support! 💋

TBH! xoxo


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Jump! Jump(suit)! Outfit inspiration! xoxo

Jump! Jump(suit)! Outfit inspiration! xoxo

NARS Cosmetics clear nail polish
£13 – barneys.com

Kate Spade twisted bracelet
£58 – katespade.com

Gold clutch
£120 – needsupply.com

Black lip gloss
£19 – marcjacobs.com

Manolo Blahnik pointed toe shoes
£395 – barneys.com


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Jump! Jump(suit)! Outfit inspiration! xoxo

Jump! Jump(suit)! Outfit inspiration! xoxo

NARS Cosmetics clear nail polish
£13 – barneys.com

Kate Spade twisted bracelet
£58 – katespade.com

Gold clutch
£120 – needsupply.com

Black lip gloss
£19 – marcjacobs.com

Manolo Blahnik pointed toe shoes
£395 – barneys.com