Beauty Confidence is a mindset that comes from within. It’s about changing our vocabulary and thoughts with regards to the way we describe and feel about ourselves. It takes time and real belief in self. I hope, no matter how big or small, that you can take something away from what you read below and celebrate the unique example of amazingness that you are!
I am pretty sure at some point in life we have all struggled with confidence. Whether related to the way we look or our abilities or for other reasons. Once you’re in that place it seems easy to stay there and start picking yourself apart bit by bit. How do I know? I have been in that place quite a few times and I decided that I don’t like that place and LOVE myself more. A whole lot more.
Make-up was once a mask that helped me hide from the real me. Check out my make-up story here. I thought if I looked good on the outside then I would feel great on the inside. It wasn’t the complete problem solver but it helped start the process. Below are some things that worked for me that I hope can help you start and process and keep going!
- Look in the mirror and see yourself. Really see YOU! You’re beauty comes from inside. You have to look closely at yourself in order to see it.
- Tell yourself you’re beautiful or handsome (yes, Men struggle with confidence related to looks also) Say it and MEAN it!
- Instead of looking at the things or areas you don’t like, smile/ celebrate/ cheer at the things you do like! Blow that trumpet loud…
- Smile more. Smiling not only makes you look better, it makes you feel better too.
- Stop comparing yourself to others. So I don’t look like Beyoncé! Guess what… Beyoncé doesn’t look like me. There really is only ONE you!
- Try to take off the mask. Whether it is a make-up mask or personality mask or any other mask. If you are not ready to take it off in one go, start with small changes. You may think the make-up mask makes you beautiful but if it is hiding you, then no one can see the real beauty behind it.
- Step out of that comfort zone every now and then. Whether that is experimenting with different colour makeup choices or clothes or forcing yourself to go out when you don’t want to. You may just like the change. See! You no- one says give up makeup completely 🙂
- Change your vocabulary when you talk about yourself. Don’t put yourself down. Use positive words and phrases. Empower yourself with encouraging, constructive and confident language.
- Set your alarm with positive mantras such as ‘Wake up gorgeous’ or ‘Time to get up and be fabulous’. You can write them down and put them around your room, house or personal space.
- Accept compliments. I still struggle with this a little but am getting much better.
I can hear those gasps again where some people are thinking they have to leave the house without make-up on. Make-up is there to enhance what is already there. In my mind that means you are already beautiful and makeup is only enhancing that beauty. I don’t want you to do anything you don’t feel comfortable with. Working on boosting your inner confidence will help you find the level of comfortability that suits you best. Once you find that place then you will achieve an inner and outer ‘beauty confidence’ that is just right for you.
The above is really only my thoughts out loud. You can read books on confidence building, speak to someone and so much more. It is heartfelt and honest and hopefully gave you some ideas.
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This blog is dedicated to the person who told me that Trey Songz (my favourite male artist) wouldn’t look at a girl with glasses and big teeth- guess what- we made eye contact and he smiled at me on Thursday at his concert. Yep, I’m beauty confident with glasses and my lovely gapped teeth!
Until next time…
p.s. This is my 50th blog post! Thank each and every one of you for your support!