I’m keeping up with my blog-a-day statement for this week. I have actually enjoyed it and feel like I a getting back into the swing of things. If I am honest some of the excitement has come from trying to extend the reach of this blog through some of the other things that make me happy, such as food and clothes. I continue to enjoy being able to connect with you all and thank you for taking time to accept the connection!
So this one has been long overdue. If you are a regular to my blog or indeed any of my other social sites, you will know that I embarked on a Natural Hair Journey in January 2014. Check out more here, and here. It has been a love/ struggle kind of thing because I was really into it at first but then suffered a setback.
In the quest to find the right products for my hair and make sure it was doing well I went to a ‘Natural Hair Salon’. I thought being able to get some professional advice would be useful and steer me on the right path. BOY! WAS I WRONG!
Without naming and shaming the place (I made a complaint and was refunded and compensated- but it did not change the feeling inside and the appearance outside) it was not the experience I had hoped for. The short (literally) version is I went in with hair and came out with none. The senior stylist told me that my hair was in great condition and just needed a couple of stray straight ends in the back to be removed. She told me it was a trim but what I got was a cut.
It is insane how much of my confidence I left in the salon with my hair on the floor. I felt taken advantage of and vulnerable. I was mad and so disgusted by the service. It is easy to say it is just hair and will grow back but at the time you don’t feel that way. Especially when the decision was not one I made or felt necessary. Let me say that I did research this place before I went. Just because they were award wining didn’t mean they were perfect. They had some reviews which all were positive but who posts bad reviews? Whether they have it in their power or not (most do unless independent) to filter them post a review. I made sure I gave mine on this experience and I was honest.
Here is a pic of my hair before I went in and after. I did not take many pics during this period. For pics of my hair and styles before the experience click here.
I could dwell on how bad I felt thereafter but it will not change or alter what has happened. Although my hair would have been a lot longer and thicker now, it has been growing. I have been putting more effort into protecting it through styles that mean I don’t have to manipulate and have my hands in it all the time. I am a wig freak at the moment and continue to love being able to switch up my look.
What has the experience taught me?
- Ask questions every step of the way at the salon
- If something doesn’t feel right then trust your instinct
- Challenge the advice (even if from a professional) if something seems off
- Beware of stylists who ‘over compliment’ your hair.
- Research. Although even as we see above it doesn’t mean they will be great.
- If you are not happy make sure to tell them. Follow a complaints procedure and take it further.
- Learn about your hair. Read books, go online and start to understand your hair and what you could be doing to take care of it without simply relying on a salon.
- There will be no monetary amount that can compensate for the damage that has been done
- Don’t let a bad experience taint you and make you lose confidence. Not all stylists or salons are like this and your hair does not make you confident…it helps but it is all about you!
- It will grow back. It may take longer and it may be different but it is your hair and you will love it.
The last point was more of a personal growth point for me as I once knew someone who had beautiful hair and it began to fall out one day. She had severe alopecia. Losing your hair is difficult for any person and when it is related to health even more so. For more information on Alopecia or hair loss, click here or search alopecia and hair loss.
So for all my friends wondering if I am still natural, yes I am. Just look below! This was day 3 of an old wash and go!
I will be keeping up with further updates and so with my natural hair. It is a faded shade of burgundy at the moment and in protective styling… I am currently a redhead again!
Tomorrow on the blog… Beauty Is… (YAY!)